Confessions

Confession #3: 8 Confessions Why am I still Single?

I’m 22 years old and… a single. I live in this world wherein single men and women at my age can totally absorb the pressure to enter into a relationship because almost everyone at this stage is indeed in a relationship.

I’m surrounded by many couples with their sweet stories to share every day and consequently, to receive a question such as why I don’t have a boyfriend, especially in the workplace, church, and circle of friends isn’t new to me at all. Until to be misunderstood the way I choose to be single or ignore interested men around me asking for dates has been inevitable and part of my life.

Please, don’t get me wrong, of course, I do want to have a boyfriend, and I know that I’m already at the right age to handle a relationship. I am not callous, cold-hearted, shy, nor afraid. Moreover, I certainly have a feeling, get attracted to someone, and praying to have a partner. In fact, I am not just praying for a boyfriend, but for a godly husband.

To be forthright about my single life, I have some lonely days I felt as though I was plagued by jealousy thoughts every time I see a happy couple video on Facebook. I do have lonely nights longing for someone to love and appreciate me in a very special way. But why don’t I have a boyfriend?…

Here are my 8 confessions.

 

1. I enjoy my status as a single.

I don’t have a boyfriend because I greatly enjoy being a single. I enjoy my freedom to do whatever I want, to know whoever I want, and go wherever I want.

2. I don’t go on a date.

To be honest, I don’t restrict myself talking to any men so long as they are considered friends or acquaintances. I, however, limit myself when I am asked to go out for a breakfast, lunch or dinner. I was told by certain friends to go on a date so I can have a boyfriend, but my mind was like, “Oh? Wait”. “Friendly date” of two opposite sex doesn’t exist in my vocabulary. I believe I am worth the risk, and I deserve someone who will pursue courtship.

3. I don’t flirt.

There were some guys who flirted with me, but they ended up being intimidated with my views and opinions. I know that if I’m good at flirting I’ll get the boyfriend the world wants for me, gladly, I’m not that girl.

4. Busy with the company of my friends.

I see them like almost every weekend for shopping, movie dates or for food trips. I’m the only single among my friends, but I’m happy and loved by them to the point I’m not desperate to have a man to prove me I am loved.

5. Waiting for the perfect time to introduce a partner.

I’m waiting for the perfect time to introduce a significant other to my parents. I knew God is still preparing me and my future boyfriend, so that when I introduce him to my parents — I know he’s the one.

6. I have high standards.

As a woman of God, I have set a high standard in choosing whom I invest my life. This may sound old-fashioned, but I want my future boyfriend to be the last person whom I’ll entrust my heart. I deserve someone who’ll take my heart like a diamond that I might not be the prettiest girl in this world, but will truly do anything to win it.

7. It’s still not my season yet.

I may be at the right age, but not at the right season to handle the relationship that God has for me. God is still preparing me towards the right man. So, when our lives came across we are both ready and fit in each other’s life.

8. I’ve surrendered the pen to God to orchestrate my love story.

This is one of the most challenging decisions I’ve ever made because this is a fight against my own desires, but I’d be more than willing to fight and wait than to see my future in the hands of the wrong person.

I was once held captive by dark relationships where I’ve seen my heart shattered and crushed. God is so great that He did not only rescue me from those dark relationships but gave me a new heart. I’m happy to realize how precious my heart is and how much I deserve someone who will pursue me %100.

Yes, I’m single and waiting. I may have those lonely nights, but it doesn’t mean I’m unhappy, in truth, I’m a happy woman because my happiness doesn’t depend on anyone else. “It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man”. (Psalm 118:8)

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    Alissa
    April 27, 2016 at 11:57 am

    It’s good that you don’t feel the need to have a boyfriend when everyone has one. Take your own time. It will just happen anyway. The best kind of love are the unexpected ones. 🙂

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      Jonine
      April 27, 2016 at 11:45 pm

      Yes, yes! I totally agree, Alissa 🙂 Thank you

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    Tricia
    April 27, 2016 at 12:12 pm

    I can totally relate! Yes there are definitely days I long for a relationship too but number seven and eight is what keeps me sane! Everything falls perfectly in God’s perfect timing and it’s always important to remember that 🙂 Thanks for this! Great read.

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      Jonine
      April 27, 2016 at 11:47 pm

      True 🙂 Thank you, Tricia! 🙂

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    Kirsty
    May 18, 2016 at 10:42 am

    I love this, I was single for 3 years before I met my current boyfriend, people were always like “I can’t believe you’re still single” like I’m sorry that I’m not giving in to the pressure of my peers that I should be with the first guy who comes along.

    I must have been asked out on dates over 40 times, online, at work, and out and about, WHY do we need to be in a relationship, just because? I’m so glad that I waited and enjoyed being single, it taught me how to be alone.

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      Jonine
      May 18, 2016 at 11:54 pm

      Hello, Kirsty! Btw, I’m currently single for 3 years , haha! You are correct, this season of my life teaches me how to be alone and independent. thanks for sharing your thoughts! 🙂

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    Kandice
    May 30, 2016 at 11:05 am

    you and I were the same. I had high standards, and was waiting for the perfect moment to introduce a partner. But I have no idea what changed. I think it’s because I fell in love hahaha

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      Jonine
      June 1, 2016 at 10:37 pm

      we tend to forget everything when we fall in love. lol
      oh, I just stalked your Ig, haha. You look so in love <3

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    Broken Biyahera
    May 31, 2016 at 8:19 am

    AKO ITO LAHAT. Hahahaha. That just proves that I’m not alone. 🙂 Imagine, I’ve been single all my life. There are times when I feel like I’m gonna be an old maid. 🙁 Pero gaya nga ng sabi nila, “Tiwala lang”. Let’s just keep our faith in love, girl. It will come. Cheers! 🙂
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      Jonine
      June 1, 2016 at 10:39 pm

      this comment made me smile 😀 hahaha. Yes, tiwala lang tayo 😀 thanks for dropping by, Bianca!

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