I’m 22 years old and… a single. I live in this world wherein single men and women at my age can totally absorb the pressure to enter into a relationship because almost everyone at this stage is indeed in a relationship.
I’m surrounded by many couples with their sweet stories to share every day and consequently, to receive a question such as why I don’t have a boyfriend, especially in the workplace, church, and circle of friends isn’t new to me at all. Until to be misunderstood the way I choose to be single or ignore interested men around me asking for dates has been inevitable and part of my life.
Please, don’t get me wrong, of course, I do want to have a boyfriend, and I know that I’m already at the right age to handle a relationship. I am not callous, cold-hearted, shy, nor afraid. Moreover, I certainly have a feeling, get attracted to someone, and praying to have a partner. In fact, I am not just praying for a boyfriend, but for a godly husband.
To be forthright about my single life, I have some lonely days I felt as though I was plagued by jealousy thoughts every time I see a happy couple video on Facebook. I do have lonely nights longing for someone to love and appreciate me in a very special way. But why don’t I have a boyfriend?…
Here are my 8 confessions.
1. I enjoy my status as a single.
I don’t have a boyfriend because I greatly enjoy being a single. I enjoy my freedom to do whatever I want, to know whoever I want, and go wherever I want.
2. I don’t go on a date.
To be honest, I don’t restrict myself talking to any men so long as they are considered friends or acquaintances. I, however, limit myself when I am asked to go out for a breakfast, lunch or dinner. I was told by certain friends to go on a date so I can have a boyfriend, but my mind was like, “Oh? Wait”. “Friendly date” of two opposite sex doesn’t exist in my vocabulary. I believe I am worth the risk, and I deserve someone who will pursue courtship.
3. I don’t flirt.
There were some guys who flirted with me, but they ended up being intimidated with my views and opinions. I know that if I’m good at flirting I’ll get the boyfriend the world wants for me, gladly, I’m not that girl.
4. Busy with the company of my friends.
I see them like almost every weekend for shopping, movie dates or for food trips. I’m the only single among my friends, but I’m happy and loved by them to the point I’m not desperate to have a man to prove me I am loved.
5. Waiting for the perfect time to introduce a partner.
I’m waiting for the perfect time to introduce a significant other to my parents. I knew God is still preparing me and my future boyfriend, so that when I introduce him to my parents — I know he’s the one.
6. I have high standards.
As a woman of God, I have set a high standard in choosing whom I invest my life. This may sound old-fashioned, but I want my future boyfriend to be the last person whom I’ll entrust my heart. I deserve someone who’ll take my heart like a diamond that I might not be the prettiest girl in this world, but will truly do anything to win it.
7. It’s still not my season yet.
I may be at the right age, but not at the right season to handle the relationship that God has for me. God is still preparing me towards the right man. So, when our lives came across we are both ready and fit in each other’s life.
8. I’ve surrendered the pen to God to orchestrate my love story.
This is one of the most challenging decisions I’ve ever made because this is a fight against my own desires, but I’d be more than willing to fight and wait than to see my future in the hands of the wrong person.
I was once held captive by dark relationships where I’ve seen my heart shattered and crushed. God is so great that He did not only rescue me from those dark relationships but gave me a new heart. I’m happy to realize how precious my heart is and how much I deserve someone who will pursue me %100.
Yes, I’m single and waiting. I may have those lonely nights, but it doesn’t mean I’m unhappy, in truth, I’m a happy woman because my happiness doesn’t depend on anyone else. “It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man”. (Psalm 118:8)